If things get physical

  • There are three levels of self-defense


    • Your first priority is always to get away.

    • This video shows how to escape from three common holds:

      • Wrist grab

      • Rear forearm choke

      • Rear bear hug


    • Without significant martial arts or criminal justice training, controlling an assailant should not be attempted. You can try to stall with passive defense such as:

      • Tricking the person with some sort of lie.

      • Talking your way out of it.

      • Claiming a contagious disease or feigning a seizure or mental illness.

      • Pretending to ( or actually) vomit.


    • Do enough damage to disable your attacker for long enough to allow you to escape.

    • This video will show three disabling techniques:

      • Palm heel/ eye gouge

      • Hammerfist  to nose

      • Sidekick to knee

Feel Strong Physically 

Be aware of what goes on around you

  • Who is walking by, what they are doing, do they look suspicious? Think of yourself as strong and confident.

  • Set clear boundaries for who can enter your personal space and when

  • For every 10 sexual assaults:

    • 4 take place at the victim's home.

    • 2 take place at the home of a friend, neighbor, or relative.

    • 1 takes place in a parking garage.

If someone becomes verbally aggressive

  • If you are able, leave immediately

  • Keep a safe distance – more than 3 feet

  • Turn sideways and assume a listening posture-- Nondominant side forward with front hand on your chin back hand tucked underneath your front elbow.

  • Speak lower, slower, and softer. Angry people speak louder, faster, and higher pitched.  If you do the opposite, they will begin to mimic you.

  • Never tell an angry person to "calm down".

  • Explain that you are sorry for the "situation". (You are not lying, and you are not admitting responsibility, only that you regret being in this situation with this person.)

  • Get help! A mediator can be a supervisor, manager, bystander, or officer.